Today is International Woman’s Day. I checked out the IWD web site to see what it was really all about, because I must confess to having some mixed feelings about it. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m a woman. I’ve been a woman my entire life. I have suffered the sexual harassment, the sexual abuse, the rapes, the violence. I’ve suffered the attempts by men to stifle who and what I am. I’ve suffered wage inequality and been on the receiving end of misogynists who claimed to be for equal rights and yet simply did not pay attention to my desires, my wisdom or my words. Yes, I have simply been discounted. Someone mentioned to me the other day that her husband “allowed” her to get her nails done because he liked to have his back scratched with those nice nails. Sigh. No....we have not yet achieved equality. No, we do not have gender parity. I’m old enough now to stand on my own two feet, and most times when I encounter misogyny I just bless them and move on, although I’m able and willing to prevent someone from physically abusing me. I’m even for a day devoted to highlighting the achievements and attributes of women. And I am glad to see that we also have an International Men’s Day. I loved it that on the International Women’s Day web site they called for “Now, more than ever, there's a strong call-to-action to press forward and progress gender parity. A strong call to #PressforProgress. A strong call to motivate and unite friends, colleagues and whole communities to think, act and be gender inclusive.”
I love this! "Great dreamers possess intimacy with the world."
Do you consider yourself a great dreamer? Do you feel as if you have intimacy with the world? What would that feel like, to feel as if we had intimacy with the world?
For me, it is a sense of oneness. Knowing that we are all connected on deep levels. Quantum physics says we are connected at the level of particles and atoms; in other words, deep cellular levels. This is science proving that what the mystics have always said is true: That we are all parts of one big One. Like drops of water in the ocean.
If this is true, and I believe it is, it has great ramifications for our behavior, and our sense of intimacy in the world.
If we are all part of one big One, then what I do affects you, and what you do affects me. And if we are all part of one big One, then there is no more loneliness.
It is both scary and comforting at the same time. To think that my actions have a much greater affect then just my immediate circle makes me think a bit more about them. I am much less inclined to do and say harmful things. And I feel it more when others in the world act out in their anger. The things that are going on in the world today, the hateful language from some of our world leaders, are distressing not only because they indicate a dis-ease on the part of the people speaking those words. They are distressing because I can feel them. And so can the rest of the world. When we are intimate with the world, we feel what goes on.
What is one to do? Well, if we are indeed connected, and we feel what goes on, then we can do our part by making sure we express and do and be only love. No hatred, no intolerance, no judgement. Yes, even when it concerns "those people."
I can tell you that while it has sometimes been a challenge to do and be love, the rewards are great. Not only do I feel more peaceful, but I am less inclined to feel the loneliness that comes from thinking I am separate from the rest of the world. When I acknowledge my connection with you, there is no way I can be lonely.
So dream big, acknowledge your connection with the rest of the world, and go and create wonderful things in your life!
I loved it when Michelle Obama said this. It made me feel proud of my leaders. It gave me a little bit of hope in a time of hopelessness, and little bit of relief from hateful rhetoric.
How ironic that I have found myself on the receiving end of someone saying, "when you go low, I go high."
That I have been so misunderstood makes me sad...and angry.
I think I have pretty good communication skills. I've been told I do. I think I've communicated fairly well in this situation. Somehow I think it is not that the person on the other end doesn't hear, I think it is that person doesn't WANT to hear.
More sadness, and anger, and grief....at the loss of a relationship that could have moved into a higher level and instead has disintegrated into nothingness, because I grow weary of being accused of negativity in every interaction, whether it is written or spoken.
It is during times like these that I think about my values, and principles that carry me when personalities would attempt to shatter everything I stand for.
One of those principles is oneness. I saw the separation during and even now, after this most recent election. I saw the rhetoric from both sides. And I also saw the beginnings of a solution, from some people whose opinions I highly value. People who spoke of the principle of oneness. Meaning that there is no us and them. That we are all connected on deep levels. Meaning that when we hurt another, we are also hurting ourselves. These same people called for communication, for listening on a deep level. They called for a listening to the cries of the folks who "went low." I've listened to some of those folks. I've discovered that they are not going low. They want change. The status quo is no longer acceptable. Yes, it is a shame that the current representative of change couches his language in hatred and shaming and demeaning. But we are stIll one.
And so, being on the receiving end of someone who says they are going high...well, I am like those conservative folks who just want to be heard. And not be accused of going low. And so I speak, and will continue to do so, in the way I've always spoken, with gentleness but firmness. I won't attack, because I recognize that is only a reaction to fear. I just speak the truth, quietly and firmly, and then I stand by it. And when the other party refuses to hear, and attacks in their fear, I pray. Yep...I pray. I pray for them. Because of oneness. Because when I pray for them, I'm praying for me too.
There are other principles and values that I stand for, but they tell me blogs are supposed to be short. So I end it here.