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Do you embrace or fight the changes?


I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about transformation and change.  The reasons why we change:  is it forced upon us, or do we make a conscious decision to change?  I think it is a little of both.  In this post I am addressing the changes that are seemingly forced upon us.  I say seemingly because I don't think anything is forced upon us.   I can hear the protests rise up in a giant cacophonous  noise even as I write the sentence.  Yes, I know we do  not consciously choose many of the changes that happen in our lives.  I've had many changes happen in my life that I would not have consciously chosen at the time they were happening.  But I stand here today grateful for every thing that has ever happened in my life, and I know that I would not be in the place I am today if it weren't for each and every one of those events.

Did I handle all those changes gracefully?  Did I respond with dignity and move into acceptance with nary a temper tantrum?  No!  I fought, and kicked and screamed and complained and struck back and did all those things that we seem to automatically do when change happens.

Then I learned a few things.  I learned that when I am not accepting change, it is not the situation I have a problem with, it is my feelings about the situation.  And I am the only one responsible for my feelings.  I can accept and feel at peace, or I can fight and be very uncomfortable.

When I stopped fighting, I realized that there was an incredible empowerment in the lack of resistance.  And the transformation that occurred in my life as a result of that has always been of great benefit to me.

What changes are you experiencing in your life?  Are you embracing them, or fighting them?  And what is the result of your reaction to the changes?  I'd love to hear about your experience.


1 thought on “Do you embrace or fight the changes?

  1. Gail

    Entelechy is closely aligned with what James Hillman refers to in his book The Soul's Code as our "daimon". This "acorn" theory or myth posits that there is an encoded pattern of development and evolution inherent within all living things which unfolds over time. An acorn has within it everything requisite to become an oak tree. Likewise the egg and the chicken, the embryo and the child. Meister Eckhart took this concept a step further when he said, basically, "A seed of God grows into God! Let yourself go; let God be God in you!" I find this comforting / encouraging / exhilarating (depending upon my mood) since I really don't have to figure anything out, it is impossible to do it wrong, perfection is present at each stage in the journey and I am never "alone", all of which are trigger issues for me. So, I see change as a given, a constant, and irresistible. It is this illusion that anything ever stays the same that gets me into trouble! When I buy into that fallacy I try to "keep it the same" which is both impossible and excruciating. And this awareness is, for me, the essence of the shift from Kingdom Two to Kingdom Three, from authorship to conduit, from co-creation to allowing, from fighting to embracing the changes...Thanks for the invitation to go deeper!

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