Life is about paradox. Surrender to win. What you resist persists. Give to receive. Accept a problem to solve it. I will never forget the first time, very early in my spiritual journey, a mentor told me that I must surrender to win. Fighter that I had been most of my life, it was extremely difficult for me to understand this concept. I had a bias against traditional religious language back then and in my mind I thought I was surrendering to a male authority figure that was separate from me. I wanted no part of that. Eventually I moved into a place of surrendering to a process that promised wonderful things if I completed it, and that worked.
Which brings up another paradox of sorts. One must go through something to get around it. Take loss, for example. It does absolutely no good, and sometimes harms, to not properly grieve a loss. Rebound relationships are an excellent example of this.
Another paradox is that we must look at ourselves with love and acceptance, not shame and condemnation. Those parts of ourselves that we find objectionable will only change if we love and accept them. Shaming them and condemning them just makes them stronger.
What are you resisting today? Is it persisting?
The beauty of living a life which contains a consistent and persistent practice of compassionate self inquiry is that it allows us to be aware of what is blocking us from our good, and with awareness comes the beautiful change that that moves us into the next greatest expression of our being.