I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about transformation and change. The reasons why we change: is it forced upon us, or do we make a conscious decision to change? I think it is a little of both. In this post I am addressing the changes that are seemingly forced upon us. I say seemingly because I don't think anything is forced upon us. I can hear the protests rise up in a giant cacophonous noise even as I write the sentence. Yes, I know we do not consciously choose many of the changes that happen in our lives. I've had many changes happen in my life that I would not have consciously chosen at the time they were happening. But I stand here today grateful for every thing that has ever happened in my life, and I know that I would not be in the place I am today if it weren't for each and every one of those events.
Did I handle all those changes gracefully? Did I respond with dignity and move into acceptance with nary a temper tantrum? No! I fought, and kicked and screamed and complained and struck back and did all those things that we seem to automatically do when change happens.
Then I learned a few things. I learned that when I am not accepting change, it is not the situation I have a problem with, it is my feelings about the situation. And I am the only one responsible for my feelings. I can accept and feel at peace, or I can fight and be very uncomfortable.
When I stopped fighting, I realized that there was an incredible empowerment in the lack of resistance. And the transformation that occurred in my life as a result of that has always been of great benefit to me.
What changes are you experiencing in your life? Are you embracing them, or fighting them? And what is the result of your reaction to the changes? I'd love to hear about your experience.